How Close Harassment Is

By Robert Smith on February 13, 2018

I want you to think of something. Think of your friends who are women. Now, I know there’s a lot of stories out in the news right now of harassment, but what if that was one of your friends? What do you do? Agree with the guy who told her to get in his car because he likes her legs? Or tell him to buzz off? That little instruction of that guy telling her to smile, can also be taken as harassment. This situation occurs a lot more than you think, and can even happen to those closest to you.

For Healthy Relationships Week, they set up a booth to give you an Idea on what women feel when they get cat-called. That feeling of dread as one is followed home, or the impending doom of someone about to be sexually assaulted. So, before you make a comment to a pretty lady, please, think of something that she would take as a COMPLIMENT, and not a slap.

The point I want to bring up is how close that this cat calling community targets you. Your friends more specifically. My fiancée frequently walks through downtown Edmonton, and usually has comments hurled at her, most of them she doesn’t tell me about, typically because of how disturbing they are to her. She’s not the only one to have comments thrown her way, for my friends get told to smile more by random strangers. Or they are told to do something by one particular guy who believes it’s a compliment. It’s not in my friend’s eyes, for they end up having to look over their shoulders to make sure they are safe.

I would like to finalize this little topic with how appalled I was when I heard these comments. I’m the type of guy who apologizes for bothering someone and taking up their time. But when I heard these comments, I was disgusted. I was horrified that my family could be hearing these comments. I want to do something, but I’m only one guy. This trend needs to end. It must stop somewhere.